Tips on How to Forgive and Forget

July 11, 2017 4 Comments

Tips on How to Forgive and Forget

How To Forgive Anyone Who Hurt You

Forgiveness. It's such a hard thing to do, but it can be so liberating to the soul. What makes it difficult for most of us to do is the way we define it. We think of forgiveness as meaning that we should say all is forgotten and things will go back to what they were.  That is not the way it works.

If you hold on to negative thoughts you’ll find yourself stuck exactly where you are and never able to move forward!

Alexander Pope once said, "To err is human; to forgive, Divine." Believe it!

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. It is not complicated. It is simple. Simply identify the situation to be forgiven and ask yourself: "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" If the answer is "No," then that's it! All is forgiven.

In my life I have had my fair share of people who have hurt me to the very core.  In working on my personal spirituality I know that I have to forgive so that I can be free.  The best way I have found to do this is to put myself in the other person’s shoes, so to speak, I find that I may have acted the same way if I had been them.  It leads me to the point that I realize I can forgive them because I’ve made mistakes and hurt others.

How can you forget the unforgettable? How can you forgive the unforgivable? All that's really required is that we make the decision to move forward, to let go of the old hurts. We don't have to condone what's been done. What's wrong is still wrong. We don't have to invite the person back into our lives or even be friendly with them. What we do have to do is allow ourselves to release all the negative emotions associated with that person. As long as we hold onto the pain, we are choosing to allow that person's past actions to continue to hurt us. We can also choose to stop letting them hurt us. That's a definition of forgiveness that's more doable for those of us who are less than saintly.

What if I don’t feel like forgiving others?

There are times we don’t feel like forgiving those who have wronged us or someone we love. It is easier to act our way into feeling than to feel our way into acting. Having a nature of not forgiving others brings about bitterness, and bitterness has been linked to stress-related illnesses by some medical researchers. By forgiving others, we free ourselves spiritually and emotionally. Forgiveness is an act of our own personal will, trusting God to bring emotional healing.

The hurts won't heal until you forgive! Recovery from wrongdoing that produces genuine forgiveness takes time. For some, it may take years. Don't rush it. Constantly reliving your wounded feelings gives the person who caused you pain power over you. Instead of mentally replaying your hurt, it helps to focus your energy on the healing, not the hurt!

Keep A Journal And Write Down Your Feelings. Write out all of your emotions. Analyze this over the next few days and every time you feel the emotions as you write them, think about what it is doing to you.

Use forgiveness affirmations daily.

Forgive and allow you to heal and be patient with yourself.  You heal when you heal.  Just remember the more you work on forgiving the faster the healing in your life will come.

Live your life fully without hanging on to past hurt, bitterness, or wasted energies. This will heal your mind, body and soul.  Guess what you will find inner happiness.

Being a spiritual advisor I am able to help you learn ways to forgive and move forward in your life.  Over the years I have helped countless people move forward in their life and leave the past behind. If you are having difficulties forgiving someone contact me, Cherokee Billie and together we will get you on the right path to a happier life. 

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I thank you for taking time out of your life to spend it with me.

Many blessings,
Cherokee Billie Spiritual Advisor

4 Responses


July 19, 2023

I forgive but not forgotten. Just when I see something or miss some material things. Then as quick as it comes it goes

Els Wallays
Els Wallays

December 08, 2020

Dear Cherokee Billie, this is a very interesting article about forgiving.
While I was reading it, I’ve already felt the healing aspect of it by reading/hearing the word “forgiving” itself.
We do it for ourselves to be free. If we do not love ourselves, we can not forgive ourselves, as well as the other. That’s a strong truth.Thank you for having shared this with us. Love. Els


July 19, 2017

I love this video cherokee it’s really help me to understand I feel really light ??thank you so much very appreciated ??hope u doing well and feeling good much love and light sent your way as always xx xx xx xx xx keep smiling and take care xx xx xx xx


July 19, 2017

I love this video cherokee it’s really help me to understand I feel really light thank you so much very appreciated ??hope u doing well and feeling good much love and light sent your way as always ???love ya take care ????

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